Giving birth can be an amazing experience, but when things don’t go to plan, it can be traumatic for some new parents. Birth trauma, sometimes manifesting as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following childbirth, can leave you feeling anxious, down, or even unable to enjoy parenthood to its fullest. Recognising the signs of birth trauma is the first step.
Recognising the Signs of Birth Trauma
If you find yourself reliving the birth through flashbacks or nightmares, or if intrusive thoughts about the experience keep you from enjoying the present, these could be indications of birth trauma.
You might also notice feelings of guilt, shame, or anger bubbling up without a clear reason, or you might find it hard to bond with your little one, feeling disconnected or distant.
Physical symptoms like headaches or stomach problems can also be a signal, especially if they seem to be triggered by memories of the birth. In more severe situations, such experiences can lead to postnatal depression or anxiety, and in rare cases, postnatal psychosis.
It's important to know that these reactions are not uncommon and it's not your fault. The NHS stresses the importance of healthcare professionals being able to recognise these symptoms. They are there to support and guide you through this tough time.
Why Does Birth Trauma Often go Unnoticed or Undiagnosed?
According to PTSD UK, up to 15.7% of people will develop some trauma-related symptoms after childbirth, and around 4–6% of people who give birth will develop PTSD following childbirth. These stats show that birth trauma is far from uncommon, but there are still lots of parents out there who don’t receive the support they need.
We spoke to Emiliana Hall, founder of The Mindful Birth Group®, and an experienced Birth and Postnatal Doula. Emiliana’s vision is to make vital antenatal and postnatal education and ongoing support accessible to everyone in the UK. She shared some insight on why birth trauma can go unnoticed:
“Birth trauma can often go unnoticed for several reasons:
1. Lack of Awareness and Recognition
Physical vs. Psychological: While physical injuries during childbirth are usually evident and treated, psychological trauma may not be immediately recognised. People may not realise their feelings of distress, anxiety, or depression are linked to their birth experience.
Normalisation of Suffering: Society often normalises the pain and stress of childbirth, leading people to believe that their traumatic feelings are just a normal part of the process.
2. Social and Cultural Stigma
Expectations of Joy: There’s a cultural expectation that childbirth should be a joyous occasion.
Parents may feel pressured to appear happy and grateful, even if their experience was traumatic.
Fear of Judgment: Some might fear being judged as weak or inadequate if they admit to feeling traumatised by childbirth.
3. Healthcare System Factors
Short Hospital Stays: In the UK, many are discharged from the hospital shortly after giving birth, reducing the opportunity for healthcare providers to identify and address psychological trauma.
Focus on Physical Health: Postnatal care often focuses on physical recovery and the baby’s health, potentially overlooking the mother’s /birthing person’s mental well-being.
Tips for Navigating Birth Trauma
1. Seek Professional Help
o Talk to a Healthcare Provider: Speak with a midwife, GP, or mental health professional about your feelings. They can provide support and refer you to specialists if needed.
o Therapy and Counselling: Consider therapy or counselling, particularly with professionals who specialise in perinatal mental health.
2. Join Support Groups
o Peer Support: Joining support groups can provide a safe space to share your experiences with others who have been through similar situations. Organizations like the Birth Trauma Association in the UK offer resources and support.
3. Practice Self-Care
o Mindfulness and Relaxation: Techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, and relaxation exercises can help manage stress and anxiety.
o Physical Activity: Gentle exercises like pregnancy yoga can improve mood and overall well-being.
4. Communicate with Loved Ones
o Open Dialogue: Talk to your partner, family, and friends about your feelings. Their support can be invaluable in your recovery process.
Addressing birth trauma involves acknowledging the experience, seeking appropriate support, and giving yourself time. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
The Mindful Birth Group® which provides award-winning Mindful Natal® courses and the PregnaHub® online platform.
Building a Support Network
After experiencing a traumatic birth, it can feel like you're navigating everything alone. Surrounding yourself with empathetic people, such as other parents who've been through similar experiences or healthcare professionals with expertise in this area, can make a world of difference.
Online forums and support groups can offer a sense of community and connection, making you feel less alone in your journey. But don't overlook the practical support that friends, family, and even neighbours can provide. They can be there to listen, help with day-to-day tasks, or simply offer a shoulder to lean on. This network can ease feelings of isolation and give you a sense of security.
Taking care of your own physical and emotional well-being is also crucial. Engaging in activities that make you happy or offer relaxation can be just as important as seeking professional help. By creating a network of support and focusing on your well-being, you can start to heal and move forward after a traumatic birth experience. Remember, it's okay to lean on others and to take time for yourself. You're not just a mum; you're a person who deserves care and support, too.
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